This sounds incredibly simplistic doesn't it and even a little patronising, especially if things in your life aren't going so well! What does it mean anyway?
Well 'seeing' in this context is much more than observing, it really means believing, as the old saying goes.....
Our beliefs are the result of our interpretion of what we see, and the meaning and value we attribute to it. This is a really complex internal process happening of out of our awareness, with it's roots burried deep within our psychi, grounded in the fertile soil of our earliest socialisation.
This is stuff we learn from babyhood as we gaze at the faces around us and guage their reactions to what they 'see' happening inside and outside and around us all the time. They are the mirrors from whom we literaly learn the meaning of life.
Our beliefs are fundamental to who we 'know' ourselves to be, and therefore what we believe we may also become! This is why it's well worth taking a look at this area of ourselves, and uncovering and challenging any unhelpful beliefs that maybe limiting our potential sucess... for me this means my happiness.
How we translate our observations shapes our self perceptions and therefore our sense of self efficacy. This ultimately influences our actions and therefore shapes the outcome and our experince........which.... reinforces our self beliefs and our beliefs about life and the world in general. It really is that simple! And so it goes, round and round...on and on....and nothing can change until our beliefs change!
Doing the necessary personal work to get to the bottom of what you 'see' and what you believe, and understanding how these values shape our entire sense of self, and our children's, takes a little focused application but not necessarily years in therapy. There's lots you can do to help figure yourself out and make positive life changing adjustments in your attitude and circumstances. It's not a quick fix route to sucess...well that depends how you translate sucess I suppose but it is definately a necessary psychological detox without which you might never realise your full personal potential!
Here's an article you may find helpful
If you would like to dig a little deeper and spend some time talking through the feelings this piece of work brings up for you feel free to get in touch. Sometimes we just need someone to hear our thoughts before we can box them up...sometimes we hang onto them for years till we find the right person and the right opportunity. Drop me a line at bellasbubble@gmail.com
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